Why is sex important? Is it okay to have sex just for pleasure? Should you only have sex when you just want children? Many people might have questions like this. I've heard rumors that some people, especially those of my faith, that it is only okay to have sex when you plan on having children to create your family. Aside from their own personal beliefs, it's important for a married couple to have sexual intimacy when they don't plan on having children just yet. I believe that sex is a very sacred topic so I wish to include same sacred thoughts that I hope will help solidify the importance of having a healthy sexual experience with your spouse.
We know that sex brings pleasure to both spouses involved. While this might be just fine, a more meaningful type of pleasure is helping your spouse feel pleasure rather than focusing on yourself. Sex shouldn't be selfish nor instill pride. It is an experience shared between two people who love each other and want what is best for the other.
The Bible includes a verse (Genesis 2:24) mentioning why sex is so important between a husband a wife. It mentions, "a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall be one flesh." I want to break the phrase, "one in flesh" down. The importance of "one in flesh" is the unifying principle of being one. Sex can be unifying and, done with the right mindset, can create a bond stronger than any other human-made bond.
This is where intimacy comes into play. A way to break down the phrase "one in flesh" is to look at the word "one" relating to the word intimacy and "flesh" relating to sex. Sex and intimacy have different meanings. Sex for sex's sake is nothing. It is a pleasure of the flesh and not much else. It is meaningless and provides but temporary pleasure. However, intimacy can be strengthened from sex, though intimacy itself is not sex. Intimacy is the true bond that makes sex important in a marriage. Intimacy is the feeling of closeness and unity. A couple can still be one and not have any sexual interaction, though intimacy is greatly strengthened from sex.
So if you only want to have sex when you want kids, you can still feel close to your spouse. You are still one, though not necessarily "one in the flesh" until the marriage is consummated. But, even then, why is it important to be one with your spouse?
Your spouse is your partner for at least the rest of your life. if truly devoted, they help provide emotional, mental and even spiritual stability. That is if they are truly devoted to each other. No one wants to feel betrayed or loved less. However, infidelity seems to a growing issue. There are numerous types of affairs, including emotional affairs. It is necessary that a couple not allow friends or others to get too involved in their marriage. If others do get too involved, one or both spouses can get emotionally attached to the other person outside of the marriage. This emotional attachment could even potentially lead to a sexual affair, thus separating the marriage bond even more. Heartache lies in wait for those whose marriages are infected by betrayal.
When intimacy is strong between a couple, strengthened by sex, the chances of infidelity are less. The love for your spouse only increases as you become one in the flesh, involving both intimacy and sex. Greater happiness lies in focusing on your spouse and making sure they feel safe and secure. When you are one, they will make sure you feel the same way.
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